Everyone knows relationships take work, but what does that actually mean? What should we be doing? This is more than a book, it is an ACTION PLAN that you can put into practice today!
(Good question, I'd ask that too!)
Hi! I'm Joli, and I like to talk about stuff that makes most people uncomfortable. Sex, money, religion, sex, politics, sex... bring it on.
But I didn't always have the skills to do it gracefully, especially in my most intimate relationships. I have made every mistake possible in my love life.
For years I said I wanted deep connection, but I did things that created a big gap between me and my husband. I was grouchy and lonely even when we spent tons of time together. Bottom line, no matter what I tried I wasn't getting what I wanted. It seemed there was always numbness and heartbreak right when I needed closeness the most. I just didn't know what to change or where to begin. Despite the best intentions of those who raised me, they didn't teach me everything I needed to know about loving and relating.
When I finally couldn't take the pain any more I dove headlong into the research... because I've never met a book I didn't love! It worked. Not overnight, but every day my relationships gained a more peaceful and passionate quality.
I love helping other people even more than I love books so I started putting my new skills to the test... and they work. My family benefitted, but so did my friends, and eventually my students and clients. Ten years and a doctoral degree later I have found a process that works to make passionate, sustainable relationship patterns.
It's time to stop settling for unfulfilling love or martyring ourselves by doing all the emotional labor and filling up with resentment.
No one said love was going to be easy, but does it really have to be so hard?
We just don't get the education in love we really need.Love isn't even close to as instinctive a skill as we might have hoped, but that changes today. I can't wait to support you on your adventures in love!
Here's what a few of them have to say about our time together
"I came home after my first session with Joli full of hope and confidence. Even on a busy evening, I found great joy in the simple things of going shopping with my wife and preparing dinner together with a newfound hope that maybe I will find what I have long yearned for as an emotional being. Tonight after dinner we had the most passionate sex and I am just beaming with happiness. I feel like I am driven with a new found purpose. "
"I immensely enjoyed our talk, and thought a lot about it since then. I surely learned so much. You have a wonderful presence and I felt safe sharing my “stuff" with you. "
"Sex isn't something people talk about and even though I'd been through therapy before, I'd never felt comfortable enough to talk about sex. Joli is able to make the uncomfortable conversations, well, normal and even inviting. I learned that what I was experiencing is somewhat common with my history and she offered gentle ways to address my struggles and a boatload of support. She is able to read people and offer the tools that are most helpful to each specific person. I've had a lot of fear about exploring this side of myself and now I feel like I have a guide to hold my hand through it which makes the fear manageable."