The relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines

You have never been okay with what *everyone* is doing. But how do you make consensual non-monogamy work with no good role models?

It's time to take your love to the next level without sacrificing individuality or security!

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Sick of going on date night only to find yourself talking work & kids or worse... arguing about heavy stuff when you want to be having fun?

The Curiosity Date is the surefire solution to avoiding a Netflix-and-nothin'' night. Open this up and leave routine behind!

Who I help

I guide ambitious entrepreneurial & c-suite couples as they create the consensually non-monogamous life they long for without sacrificing their desire for stability and depth of connection.

Established couples in CNM

Couples ready to unlock their full potential together

Learn how to grow more authentically YOU while deepening your connection.

Relationship constellations

Relationships that aren't defined by the word couple

Work with a coach who is more than just polyamory "friendly" Joli actually lives a CNM life.

Successful start in CNM

People who want bespoke love not cookie-cutter advice

Having a guide makes it a million times easier to design the love you actually want.

How it works...

When you set out to design an iconoclastic love- you need a guide who's been there


Creating a loving relationship that fulfills your desire for both stability and adventure is not something your run-of-the-mill couple's counselor is prepared or qualified to do. 

Working with Joli is unlike any therapy you've done before. This is not just relationship work, this is your individuation journey. Joli will guide your way on a path most people are too scared to even try. 

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Hi, I'm Joli!

In my world, EVERYTHING is talkaboutable

I'm a research psychologist, best-selling author, TEDx speaker, and AASECT certified sex educator. I've spent the past two decades studying and reimagining what love can be if we open our imaginations to possibility. I love helping people create partnerships that are custom-built for their authentic selves, no more shrinking, pretending, or hiding required.

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The Project Relationship Podcast

Featured episodes

Why polyamory?

To kick off season 2 we are responding to a request from a listener who asked "Why are you polyamorous?" Joli studied consensual non-monogamies as a research psychologist but it is also an important part of our personal relationship design. We are talking about what polyamory is, why it works for us, and how it feels to put your heart in someone's hand without the rules of monogamy.
Consensual non-monogamy isn't the right fit for everyone, monogamy is beautiful and a great choice for lots of people. But, polyamory has been making a lot of headlines and popping up in storylines more and more. If you are curious about what it looks like from the inside, have a listen. We've found that no matter what relationship style you choose, we can all learn from each other.

Relationship agreements in the wild

We are talking relationship agreements again, this time looking at how we actually, practically, maintain ours. We also found a hole in one of ours while recording that we need to address. (No relationship escapes being a work in progress, including ours!)

Threesomes... what to consider before the fun

Monogamy works really well for a lot of people and yet a recent study showed that group sexual encounters are the number one fantasy in the US. Maybe as a pair, you've started talking about including other people in your sex life. That can be really fun to think about and to talk about. And there is so much to talk about before taking action! In this episode, we share some things to talk about that can help you all get what you want out of the experience, whether it's a one-time thing or something you're interested in long-term, or something that you decide is more fun to fantasize about than act on.


Project Relationship

The Entrepreneur's Action Plan for Passionate, Sustainable Love

Who got the education on love they really deserved?

Yeah, that would be almost no one.

I wrote this book for high achievers who want their home life to be as spectacular as their professional life.

Love is a skill set and you can learn it & take action today that will change your whole life.

Buy your copy today >

Watch Joli's TedX

Compersion- the opposite of Jealousy

Jealousy is one of the most feared aspects of consensual non-monogamy... but I study jealousy as a scholar and I've got data that shows jealousy can be an asset -yes, really- IF we learn what really it is and how to work with it rather than try to avoid it.

Relationship advice for people,

not cookie-cutters

Want to have better sex? Faster ways out of a fight?  Easy to implement solutions for negotiating boundaries? Creative ideas for getting closure during tough times? Funny stories about Joli's early (and epic) failures trying to be non-monogamous without a clue?

I'm into action (that's what she said?), so email from me is worth opening.