The Relationship Coach for Couples Who Color

Outside the Lines!


Joli helps people experience the freedom, deep security, and sexual fulfillment that comes when they shift from plain-old monogamy to MORE. 


More WHAT exactly?


Polyamory, ethical nonmonogamy, creative monogamy- Joli guides you out of the standard script and into the life you were meant to have!


Apply to work with Joli , the coach who literally wrote the book on passionate, sustainable relationships for entrepreneurs

Your relationship can be both open and secure.


It is possible.  I help people do it


Action-takers can have this life.


Intentionally designed love, whether it is creatively monogamous or consensually non-monogamous, doesn't mean sacrificing stability or depth of connection. 


But the rules you learned about love won't get you where you want to go.


You need a masterful coach to guide you.


This is your most profound connection- you don't want to risk losing it just to get laid- you're an adult.


But you also don't want a walking-dead life just because someone else said buttoned-up was the only way to do love.


It's time to flip over tables and toss the rule books. 


My signature process gives you the skills you need to take full creative power over your love life!


Watch Joli's TedX

Compersion- the Opposite of Jealousy


Jealousy is terrifying.


But I study jealousy as a scholar and I've got data that shows jealousy can be an asset -yes, really- if we learn how to work with it.

To make a truly remarkable love, you need a guide who has LIVED and STUDIED unconventional relationships. 


Creating a loving relationship that fulfills your desire for both stability and sexual adventure is not something your run-of-the-mill couple's counselor is prepared or qualified to do. 


Working with Joli is unlike any therapy you've done before.


This is not just relationship work, this is your individuation journey...  becoming exactly who you were born to be, including as a lover.


Individuation is the process of becoming completely yourself.  


Joli will transform your relationship into an individuation journey. 


How, exactly?


A Ph.D. in Jungian and archetypal psychology +

certified sex educator = Magic Maker 


I've combined decades of lived experience with three psychology degrees, a sexuality certificate, and making jealousy my primary academic research topic.


It's been exciting (uh... yeah, and kinda rough!) 


You deserve a graceful, fun transition into the relationship you want.



But you can skip the rough edges.


You don't have to put yourself through hell or read 400 psychology books to learn how to love. 



My fascination with complexity led me to develop a system for YOU to keep things simple!



Let me guide you through my signature relational individuation process for the love and life you long for.


The Project Relationship Podcast

Featured episodes

Why polyamory?

To kick off season 2 we are responding to a request from a listener who asked "Why are you polyamorous?" Joli studied consensual non-monogamies as a research psychologist but it is also an important part of our personal relationship design. We are talking about what polyamory is, why it works for us, and how it feels to put your heart in someone's hand without the rules of monogamy.
Consensual non-monogamy isn't the right fit for everyone, monogamy is beautiful and a great choice for lots of people. But, polyamory has been making a lot of headlines and popping up in storylines more and more. If you are curious about what it looks like from the inside, have a listen. We've found that no matter what relationship style you choose, we can all learn from each other.

Relationship agreements in the wild

We are talking relationship agreements again, this time looking at how we actually, practically, maintain ours. We also found a hole in one of ours while recording that we need to address. (No relationship escapes being a work in progress, including ours!)

Threesomes... what to consider before the fun

Monogamy works really well for a lot of people and yet a recent study showed that group sexual encounters are the number one fantasy in the US. Maybe as a pair, you've started talking about including other people in your sex life. That can be really fun to think about and to talk about. And there is so much to talk about before taking action! In this episode, we share some things to talk about that can help you all get what you want out of the experience, whether it's a one-time thing or something you're interested in long-term, or something that you decide is more fun to fantasize about than act on.

Take your love from acceptable to exceptional TODAY! 


This FREE bundle includes all 5 of my most sought-after relationship  guides:

  • Getting What You Need
  • The Curiosity Date
  • Taming the Green-eyed Monster
  • The ONE Question to Reignite Your Sex Life
  • and... my Dirty Little Secret for Making More Money While Staying in Bed

Project Relationship

The Entrepreneur's Action Plan for Passionate, Sustainable Love

Who got the education on love they really deserved?

Yeah, that would be almost no one.

I wrote this book for high achievers who want their home life to be as spectacular as their professional life.

Love is a skill set and you can learn it & take action today that will change your whole life.

Buy your copy today >


Relationship advice for people,

not cookie-cutters

Want to have better sex? Faster ways out of a fight?  Easy to implement solutions for negotiating boundaries? Creative ideas for getting closure during tough times? Funny stories about Joli's early (and epic) failures trying to be non-monogamous without a clue?

I'm into action (that's what she said?), so email from me is worth opening.