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YOO has honestly given us more than I thought was even possible, my wife is so full of love and supportive of my girlfriend and I being in love and open about it and we would not be anywhere near where we are without you and YOO. I feel joy for her joys and journeys and neither my wife nor I are sure we’d still be together had we not found you!
-Michael
YOO alum 2024 (Oak Cohort)
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Just wanted to take a minute to say thank you. You were the first person to teach me this and I feel like it's one of the most helpful things I've EVER learned in my experience of being human.
-Mandee Madrid-Sikich
YOO member 2025 (Linden cohort)
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Joli, I have to tell you a quick story. My husband and I had a situation over the weekend when he experienced attachment panic. Today he was driving in the car and told me he was listening to a podcast episode that "changed his life." He said it popped into his feed as if he was meant to hear it. Well, it was episode 198 where you answer this question I posed to you below. So, I want to say thank you for asking for our questions and for answering them!
-Playing With Fire Listener
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I know more about my needs, wants, and likes than I expected to find. I wasn’t raised to think of myself this way–it’s liberating!
-Laura
YOO alum 2024 (Willow cohort)
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I opened up my marriage five years ago, but I opened up myself this year. I’m grateful for this year of growth. I’m moving forward with access to my own needs and wants.
-River Farrell
YOO alum 2024 (Willow cohort)
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Opened my first dating app profile! So glad to know what not to do- this is so different from meeting someone back in my twenties!
-43 year old man in a 15-year monogamous marriage making a shift from monogamous to polyamorous
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I was going to be the good student, the big Virgo energy, working toward relationship anarchy and one of my greatest lessons in this experience was to embrace myself where I am and how I am and how my body needs me to be, I don’t have to push so hard. There’s a sense of gentleness and expansivity all at the same time!
-YOO participant, open for 8 years and working on CNM as a path of individuation
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I cannot tell you how amazing YOO has been for us. The conversations my partner and I have been having during our "stretch time" every week have truly been remarkable for our relationship. He's even ahead of me on his homework! Stinker! ;) Anyway, we love it and are so grateful for you and Ken!
-YOO participant married several years, parenting a toddler, opening up for the first time.
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I’m in two relationships that are great but are also inspiring me to grapple with my choices and identity. I’m leaning into my truth while staying relational. I’ve been working on moving out of my older anxious tendencies and now seeing avoidant ones; I’m working on practicing secure attachment habits consciously.
-YOO participant came out of a controlling previous CNM experience and learned how to do CNM in a healthy pattern
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I'm grateful for everyone and everything we've shared during YOO. This experience has been filled with moments of anxiety, but it has ultimately led to a sense of settling and peace. I've learned the importance of community and the value of staying present even when things feel challenging. I came in with a ton of experience--I've been open pretty much my whole life--and now I feel like I'm thriving at things I didn't even know I needed to be skillful at in non-monogamy. Thank you all for being part of this journey.
-Anthony DiSciullo
YOO alum 2024 (Birch cohort)
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The class gave me a solid foundation for understanding relationships and community. I'm more confident and capable now, ready to support others with the knowledge and skills I've gained. The Year of Opening has been a transformative experience, helping me to navigate my own journey and to better connect with those around me. I'm grateful for the ongoing support and the opportunity to continue learning and growing.
-Ana Gonzalez
YOO alum 2024 (Birch cohort)
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Joining the Year of Opening was like a lifeboat for us, helping us figure things out when we felt lost and weren't sure we could make it work. Over the course of a year, we've learned so much about ourselves and each other, grown together, and built a solid foundation for our future. My partner and I have learned to communicate so much better--even about all of the hard things--and that has brought us closer than ever. I feel more confident and capable, ready to face whatever comes next. We're creating a relationship together that fits us just right, even if it's a bit outside the norm.
-Cassie F
YOO alum 2024 (Birch cohort)
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When I started this journey, I was following my partner. I didn’t have my own *why* for exploring non-monogamy. I knew I could consent to learning and that I could trust my current partner to work with me at a pace that worked for both of us. We’ve always done things our own way, but questioning monogamy was still a total re-imagining of everything–monogamy and everything it stands for has been the center of my world. It was just so ingrained in every part of my life. But we questioned things, and I learned to deconstruct the whole thing, untangle the threads, and re-weave my own tapestry.
-Laura
YOO alum 2024 (Willow cohort)
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Looking back, I see Year of Opening was a bit of a desperation move for me. I wanted to preserve my couplehood but didn’t know it would be so much bigger than that for me. I see how far we’ve come, how far I’ve come, and wow, I didn’t know what was possible. This weekly group became core for me. I learned more because I could hear how others worked through the skills and growth in their own ways. I’m amazed and grateful for how the Year of Opening has impacted my individuation and relationships.
-Ari
YOO alum 2023 (Juniper cohort)
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The YOO is truly an incredible work of heart. You have given me the gift of finding myself, supported me through the most difficult year of my life, and made me confident in who I am. You saved my livelihood at the most critical point, and I cannot thank you enough; a million times over is not enough. You are so thoughtful, insightful, and compassionate. You’re a great teacher, and I hope many, many more people get the honor of learning from you. I wish I could fully communicate how important this work has been for me, and the safe container you’ve created in which to collaborate with like-minded others is invaluable. Thank you so much.
-Ariana
YOO alum 2024 (Willow cohort)
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We’ve been theoretically open for a long time but this is our first time going to an event and having clearly negotiated for how we would act on our open philosophy. We both had a few experiences we have been dying to make happen for years.
-Private Clients, 6 year couplehood, always open in their ideas but lots of fear had kept them from exploring physically
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Navigated my first night alone in the house with a plan (no more white-knuckling it, as Joli said!) and it went great. I had some feels (big ones), followed my jealousy plan, and when it was time for our check-in the next day I was ready to reconnect genuinely, which meant a lot because I used to do the freeze-out for days after he’d go out.
-YOO alum, 18-year marriage, 6 years open but with a lot of struggles and pain
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To be able to love people in more ways is incredibly liberating! I literally feel like a different person. I don’t ever want to not be curious. And I feel wise! Without these tools people are raw dogging it!
-YOO participant 8 year marriage, opened in a non-negotiated/unconscious way 8 months before beginning YOO. Lots of repair and individuation work and now they are happily CNM
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We have done things I never imagined possible, stuff I thought would break us and we’ve used the tools to have those same things bring us closer together. I feel more comfortable with being in the not-knowing-for-sure spot and trusting that we will work through the hard stuff. I also found the courage to have conversations about my relationship structure with my parents–never thought I’d do that!
-MMT
YOO alum 2023 (Juniper cohort)
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YOO has been part of unraveling a life that wasn’t working for me. I’m learning to be present, differentiated, and to choose to break patterns that no longer serve me. I am also learning to build patterns that do serve my needs and wants moving forward. This class was and continues to be, so much more than I anticipated and truly something I needed. I think anyone, no matter their relationship style or orientation, could benefit from the skills taught in YOO.
-Nicky Karluk
YOO alum 2024 (Willow cohort)
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My life is not where I thought it would be, but I’ve made enormous strides. I went from feeling like “this happened to me” to “I choose non-monogamy for myself, for my own reasons and my own growth” Jealousy doesn’t feel like a life-threatening experience anymore, and I’m finally not grasping so hard that it pushes my wife away. We’re both dating, and we can talk about it with love and care!
-Heather
YOO alum 2023 (Juniper cohort)
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During my year of opening with my wife, we had just started opening our relationship and our marriage and we knew it would be challenging, so we knew that this cohort would be a good way to learn. And I'll say very eagerly and with a lot of confidence that the cohort was amazing. I learned a lot about how to do transitions. Did a lot of personal work on my own values and reasons. I also learned a lot about the different relationship styles and learned a lot about what I was looking for and it's so cliché, but it's not just communication but how and when to do that communication. I learned that I had to do work, but also my wife also needed to do work. Joli is an absolutely outstanding facilitator and kept us all on track and at the same time made space for people to voice their concerns and keep things relevant. I still go back to the YOO page and look at some of the classes to relearn what I need to or re-look at some of the things that I might need as a resource.
-Ajayi (Laurel YOO cohort member)
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Made our first Minimum Viable Agreement like you taught us and we already hit a dealbreaker. I almost flipped out but then we both remembered that we planned for this. I reached out to our group Signal chat—so glad to have our group support!— and then we worked through the exact steps we had already planned. Back on track and collecting more data about what works and what doesn’t work for us. I’m shocked that we didn’t wind up fighting like we usually do. Shocked. Thanks!
- YOO participant, 2024 (Aspen cohort) 18-month long-distance partnership, opened from the beginning with lots of rollercoasters and crossed-fingers
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Finding home within myself and the importance of community were key lessons. The Year of Opening has been a journey of self-discovery and connection. I've faced my fears, embraced my strengths, and found a supportive community that uplifts and inspires. This experience has taught me to trust myself and to value the connections I make with others. Even though my life has gone so much differently than I might have expected, I'm excited to create intentional relationships everywhere I go. This learning impacted all my relationships: romantic, friendships, and professional alike.
-Monique
YOO alum 2024 (Birch cohort)
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Learning it's okay to disappoint people and staying with the work even when it didn't go as planned has been incredibly rewarding. The Year of Opening has shown me the importance of trusting my own experiences and feelings. I've become more resourceful and resilient, learning to lean into my emotions and navigate challenges. Thank you all for your support and for being part of this transformative journey.
-Justin Kalm
YOO alum 2024 (Birch cohort)
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I never expected to find myself in a group talking about my deepest relationship troubles, but being in a space where I could see how other people deal with the real, raw stuff was stunning. I was surprised by how fast some of the things we learned could become game-changers for my relationships, especially ways to communicate. Conversations that would have crushed us before–now we have them and get closer. I’m so proud of us!
-Ryan
YOO alum 2023 (Juniper cohort)
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The community–having these brilliant humans sharing how they are building relationships they love gave me the courage to keep going. I learned that I can do this on my own, I can get off the relationship escalator and still have the depth and connection I want and make a life that fits me exactly as I am.
-Ariana
YOO alum 2024 (Willow cohort)
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Learning and practicing the techniques of great relationship in a group where I could really be myself and show my soft, vulnerable fears helped me immensely. I found the strength to be in integrity with my beloved and to hold myself accountable even when it was scary. We’ve grown closer and I believe in us individually and together more than ever.
-Noah Coad
YOO alum 2023 (Juniper cohort)
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Going into the Year of Opening, I honestly wasn't sure what to expect. I didn't know much about it, and I wasn't certain it was for me. Looking back now, it has been one of the best things I've ever done in my life.
One of the biggest things I've gained is that it's challenged me to think about concepts and perspectives I never would have considered otherwise. It has made me look inward, question old patterns, and begin the journey of becoming the partner I truly want to be. Amber deserves someone who is always growing, learning, and showing up with intention, and this experience has helped me start becoming that person. That alone has made the experience incredibly valuable.
You are a true teacher. It's obvious that you're constantly learning, growing, and refining your craft, and that passion comes through in everything you do. You don't just teach—you genuinely care about helping people understand themselves and grow.
You and Ken have created such a welcoming environment. Even though I usually don't reach out, you've both always been available, approachable, understanding, and never made me feel like I couldn't ask a question or reach out if needed. That kind of support is rare.
More than anything, what stands out to me is that you and Ken are simply great human beings who truly care about people. That isn't something you can fake, and it's one of the biggest reasons the Year of Opening has had such a positive impact on me.
Thank you both for everything you've poured into this program and everyone who's been a part of it. I'm incredibly grateful I decided to take the leap.
Thanks again,
-Kas (Magnolia YOO cohort member)
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Witnessing each other on the roller coaster ride of emotions and growth gave me hope during my own ups and downs. I love that we developed an easy system to stretch and make changes that were sustainable. I can trust my partner more and trust myself too, that we’re both showing up fully.
-Martha Marin
YOO alum 2023 (Juniper cohort)
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My life is not where I thought it would be, but I’ve made enormous strides. I went from feeling like “this happened to me” to “I choose non-monogamy for myself, for my own reasons and my own growth” Jealousy doesn’t feel like a life-threatening experience anymore, and I’m finally not grasping so hard that it pushes my wife away. We’re both dating, and we can talk about it with love and care!
-Heather
YOO alum 2023 (Juniper cohort)
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It’s easier for me to have the relationships with others that I want, I can finally communicate my needs and wants, and it feels possible to live the life I wanted deeply.
-Bobbi
YOO alum 2023 (Juniper cohort)
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I went on my first coffee date. My husband had a little wobble and we talked about it openly. It went so much better than I imagined!
-YOO alum 2022 (Rowan cohort), 53-year-old woman in a 25+ year monogamous marriage began their opening process few months ago with an eye toward tending both of their trauma histories
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I think I spent almost $20k in relationship counseling before YOO and ended up getting nowhere if you want my honest thoughts. 😳 My wife and I now actually have the relationship we both want designed in a sustainable way
-Michael
YOO alum 2024 (Oak Cohort)
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Had my first kiss that wasn’t my wife in 31 years! I’ve been excited but so nervous that this wasn’t going to happen or that everything would get super emotional at home when it did… but our direction together is feeling clear and open. I’m so happy!
-YOO alum 2022 (Rowan cohort) 52-year-old man in a 30-year monogamous marriage
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Though I wasn't able to attend the second half(ish) of the live calls, I got so much out of the program through the content, exercises, and stretches alone (and I still refer back to them today!).
The Year of Opening gave me practical skills to navigate complex relationship dynamics with so much more confidence and intention. It also introduced me to a community of people living similar lifestyles, which made me feel far less alone and gave me people I could genuinely relate to and lean on.
The biggest gift, though, was the skill-building. I learned how to better understand my own needs and desires, recognize power dynamics, create meaningful agreements, hold council, communicate more openly about sex and intimacy, and even end or reshape relationships in healthier, more intentional ways. The work extends far beyond romantic or sexual relationships, too. I've found myself applying these skills in the workplace and within my family just as often. These are skills I was never taught anywhere else, and I genuinely believe I'll carry them with me for the rest of my life.
Something that surprised me was how much value came from the "extras." Joli's curated library of books, podcasts, and additional resources gave me so many avenues to continue learning, and some of those recommendations have become my favorite relationship resources. I also loved the conversations about applying non-monogamous principles outside of romantic relationships. Learning to reframe everyday interactions through the lenses of autonomy, consent, curiosity, and intentional communication has genuinely changed how I move through the world, not just how I date.
One of the things I appreciated most was that nothing felt "use it or lose it." Having lifetime access to everything inside Circle meant I never felt like I was falling behind when life got busy. I could revisit lessons, rewatch content, and return to the stretches whenever I needed them. Even now, I still go back because different lessons resonate depending on where I am in life and in my relationships. The Circle community has remained an incredible resource, too. Knowing I still have access to thoughtful, supportive people navigating similar questions makes the value of the program extend far beyond the live sessions. It doesn't feel like buying a course. It feels like gaining a lifelong library and community.
I've recommended this program to nearly every non-monogamous person I know. It doesn't magically solve every relationship challenge, because that work ultimately comes from within, but it provides an incredible foundation. It gives you the language, frameworks, and tools to better understand yourself and the people you care about. The return on investment isn't just what you learn during the program. It's the toolkit, reference library, and community you'll continue to lean on long after the live sessions end.
If you're willing to do the work, I truly think it's one of the best investments you can make in yourself, your relationships, and your ability to move through the world with more intention, compassion, and connection.
-Brandi (Sequoia YOO cohort member)
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I was the unsuspecting monogamous husband whose wife expressed a desire to explore opening after 20 years of marriage. YOO offered the language, tools, and the supportive community that allowed us to navigate safely through the incredible turmoil and confusion that emerged when we began that exploration. Year of Opening was truly life changing for me, and relationship changing for the two of us. Today, we are stronger, happier, more intimate, more honest, and more attracted to one another today than we've ever been. Moreover, all of our intimate relationships are stronger for having gone through YOO, most importantly, our relationships tto ourselves. I know myself so much more deeply and intimately as a result of confronting the monogamous norms into which I had been enculturated—norms that were completely invisible to me. It's hard to overstate how uniquely powerful Joli's insights and guidance as a Jungian depth psychologist are. I'm pretty sure YOO offers the ENM community something unique. It's an overused thing to say but Year of Opening was sincerely life changing! I'm a better, more expansive human being for having gone through it.
-Kevin (Cypress YOO cohort member)
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I feel a deep sense of wisdom. The poetry of this group meeting regularly and just being with wherever we are, how we are. This is what it is.
-YOO participant, open for 8 years and working on CNM as a path of individuation
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I’m now confident putting my needs out there and letting go of those who can’t/won’t meet them. This was an unimaginable outcome for me!
-YOO participant at the end of the year. 10 year marriage, codependent, exploring opening to manage his cheating history, she eventually left and chose monogamy- a perfect outcome for her!
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Had a date with another couple last night- this is so much fun, it was flirty, friendly, way less overwhelming than I had imagined and the sex when we got home was amazing!
-14-year marriage, shifting from monogamous to swinging on the way toward planned polyamory
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When Anna and I signed up for the Year of Opening, I thought I was enrolling in a program about non-monogamy. What I discovered was that it was really a program about trust, communication, self-awareness, and building an extraordinary relationship.
The biggest gift was learning how to have conversations that most couples never have. We learned to talk openly about jealousy, insecurities, fantasies, boundaries, desires, and fears without judgment or defensiveness. Instead of avoiding difficult topics, we learned how to approach them with curiosity and compassion. That level of openness created a sense of trust and emotional safety that has transformed our relationship.
The program also challenged me personally. It helped me better understand what it means for Anna to be queer, appreciate experiences and perspectives that I hadn't fully understood before, and become much more sex-positive in the healthiest sense of the term. Rather than seeing sexuality through the lens of fear or taboo, I learned to approach it with curiosity, respect, and confidence.
Because of that foundation, we've been able to explore things that would have felt impossible before—from discussing fantasies and kink, to attending sex-positive events together, to navigating new experiences with clear communication and mutual trust. The exploration itself has been fun, but what matters most is that every adventure has ultimately brought us closer together.
One of the most valuable parts of the experience was hearing from people in all kinds of relationships and at every stage of their journey. It reminded us there isn't one "right" relationship model—there's only the relationship you intentionally create together.
The program itself is exceptional, but what truly makes it special is you. Your ability to lead conversations around some of the most emotionally complex, vulnerable, and nuanced topics I've ever encountered is remarkable. You create an environment where people from completely different backgrounds and relationship structures feel safe enough to be honest, challenge themselves, and grow. I genuinely believe you are one of the world's leading experts in this space. Your depth of knowledge, empathy, intuition, and ability to navigate incredibly complicated conversations is unlike anything I've experienced. Ken is a wonderful complement to your leadership. His willingness to share his own experiences brings authenticity, warmth, and practical perspective that enriches the program, and together you make an outstanding team. But it is your vision, guidance, and facilitation that make the Year of Opening such a truly transformative experience.
I'd genuinely recommend the Year of Opening to anyone, whether they're monogamous, curious about opening their relationship, or simply want to build a stronger partnership. For us, it became far more than a course about relationship structure. It gave us a framework for navigating life together with honesty, courage, and a level of intimacy that I didn't know was possible.
Thank you both for creating something that has had such a meaningful impact on our lives. I know Anna and I will carry these lessons with us for the rest of our lives.
– Mike + Anna (Linden YOO cohort members)
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We have always been a power couple, able to achieve whatever we set out to accomplish together. YOO upgraded our communication skills to a world-class level, impacting every aspect of our life together. We also solidified the secure base of our relationship, making it possible to explore non-monogamy in a way that feels great.
-Bill
YOO alum 2024 (Willow cohort)
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I feel confident standing in my truth, practicing my differentiation, and actively participating in my individuation. When we began, I struggled to identify my own needs and wants, let alone my boundaries, over this year, I’ve come to understand more about myself than I expected.
-Laura
YOO alum 2024 (Willow cohort)
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The community, the consistent support, with no pressure to be like everyone else–amazing. This isn’t really just non-monogamy education– this is the relationship education everyone deserves. I don’t know what relationship structure I’ll choose in the future, but the Year of Opening skills will be part of whatever I do!
-YOO alum 2023 (name withheld)
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The YOO helped broaden my horizon. I honestly had no idea that there were other ways of coupling and relating. It seems so silly to me now that it never occurred to me. i do believe the mononormativity in our culture is actually at a toxic level. Even if people choose to remain monogamous I think the education about custom designing your relationships is the most effective and detailed instruction i have ever received even after years of couples counseling and seeking solutions.
I recommend YOO all the time to couples and friends hoping to help change the current narrative around relating.
I truly am amazed at you and Ken and your life’s work. Keep that shit up!
-Erika (Cypress YOO cohort member)
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The YOO has been life changing. The questions that are asked, are questions I’ve never heard before. They are not convoluted or confusing, they are simple, straightforward questions that make all the difference, not only in relating to others, but also in relating to myself. The other highlight for me, is the YOO community. I love the support! I love feeling like I’m not all alone on this journey
I love the YOO!!! Thanks for all of your hard work!
-Amber C. (Magnolia YOO cohort member)
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God bless the NSI drills, the Inner Council process, and the lens of multiplicity, which is now a core belief I can count on!!
-YOO participant, open for 8 years and working on CNM as a path of individuation
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I learned language for difficult conversations with anyone. This is world-class communication skill-building and we thought we were great at communication before!
-YOO participant 32-year marriage, opening towards creative monogamy with a gentle, careful pacing
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How we’re seen changes who we are. This container was what we needed the container to be and YOU ALL made that possible. You all changed how I could imagine myself!
-YOO participant, 26-year marriage, opening gently toward an unknown future.
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Surfing meets trapeze meets tango...that's what the Year of Opening felt like for me. Seriously terrifying in the beginning. Wet, wild, and windy in the middle. Then juicy and delicious as the wave, the flight, the song came to a close. YOO was definitely one of the most transformative experiences of my life, and I'm so flipping grateful.
The best things in life, for me, are often, initially, explored for one reason then result in something so much bigger. YOO was definitely a best thing. The goal was opening our relationship. The result was finding a supportive and beautiful NM community, meeting my inner council, shifting so many old paradigms that no longer served me, and gaining a wealth of knowledge I needed to be the best me I can be in every realm and arena of my life and human existence.
-Jody Morse, surfer/aerialist/dancer in Honolulu (Sequoia YOO cohort member)
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something else…during this opening and individuation process, i find that i feel much more connected to brea in our relationship…so i wonder if the desire for more independence is a symptom of trusting my relationship with my partner more…that foundation/base feeling more solid.
i can’t believe what this has kicked open in me…i imagine you see it all the time, but i am absolutely floored. the initial connection ended up going quiet, but i don’t care…i’ve connected with a couple others and one is moving towards sex. brea is like a neutron star of compersion…just fucking beaming! i feel the foundation of my partner and i expanding and the ease that we are both moving through this is such a gift. i know it wont always be like this…but what an affirming start. there’s so much i see in myself and how i am energetically with others…what an absolute shameless flirt i am and how much i love that bit of it. i love what it’s bringing up in my partner, how it feels like we are connecting on a deeper level, and how each one of the tools i’ve learned so far is moving out of theory into practice…how the work on myself and what i have done to find this love for who i am, and how in these new connections i am not reliant on anyone’s warmth, but rather i am the radiant one.
so. much. to. Say.
Also i can say that when i started this class, i believed in the individuation piece, but fundamentally believed that being poly was not something that works…to “it works for others and good for them”…to “…oh…i. get. it.”. with emphasis on every aspect of that sentence.
Floored by the depth this course offers and absolutely amazed by the space held for each person in this cohort. Thank you for change you foster and loving distance you hold for every step each one of us navigates.
-Shea Cross-Caldwell (Hickory YOO cohort member)
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We often tell our friends how valuable and life changing our experience with YOO was!
-Birch YOO cohort member
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Joli - we love you and you have changed our lives - grateful 10x - you have a gift! And we appreciate how lucky we are to have found you 🙏
-Mike + Anna
Linden YOO cohort members
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I think it's providing with me a safe place where I'm learning, reflecting, and committing to this individuation journey at a time when I felt that I needed support, and I think it's been really valuable.
Well, just showing that once a week, having that kind of confidential space for people who don't have that kind of community in their own local areas is just been facilitated beautifully and with humour, sensitivity, inclusion. Who've seen and heard and learning new things. I've got resources that I'll have for the rest of my life. So it's like I feel more confident continuing on my E&M journey now that I think about finishing the year soon because now it's the 12th of July and I'll be finishing the end of August. So I'm glad I didn't give up because whatever you put into it is what you put in. The more you get out of it.
Yeah, I hope this is helpful what I'm sharing. I think Joli and Ken have a lot to share some of their own experience, and it's beautiful how they use themselves so that we feel more comfortable with opening up. And it helps when we whenever we ask questions. I feel like both of you always provide us with helpful answers. There's insights, and I would highly recommend this to people who need to need more to feel better equipped to handling the challenges that come up with opening up your relationship or perhaps in any form of non-monogamy. So if I have anything else to share, I will. Yeah, I'm very grateful. Thank you.
-Helga (Cedar YOO cohort member)
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And I just wanted to say yoo was the first thing. We're in individuation alchemy now, and yoo was the first thing that Brian and I did. But I would say that I would put the benefit into that three buckets:
One is a structure for understanding, an unconventional structure if that makes sense. It helps to have a structure around an understanding around what I'm feeling, where those feelings fit, that those feelings are normal, that those feelings are okay, that those feelings are felt by others. And so the structure is one bucket.
The next bucket is a common language, which sort of fits in the structure, but understanding the language of our community is, and having a common understanding in using that language when you're talking about your nervous system, when you're talking about being dysregulated, when you're talking about feeling jealousy versus envy versus justice, jealousy versus anger. All of those things. So that common language about the experience is really important to me.
And then the most important part to me is the community itself. Just having people that aren't just you or aren't just like aren't just you and Ken, or aren't just some people on Reddit, or aren't just the friends that I have that don't really understand me. There's a true community.
-Stacie C. (Gingko YOO cohort member)
